Another hard post to write, which is why it’s taken an extra couple of days to get to it.  Trying to sort out why the word obedience has a negative connotation as well as a positive one.

The people I’ve spoken to have given me very similar responses when I ask, “What do you think of when you consider the word ‘obedience’?”  Rebellion from unfair or unjust ideas, especially those of us in the Gender and Sexually Diverse community, crashes up against the idea of obedience like a wave.  It can be mistaken for oppression very easily, and it can also be blind; many are obedient to a way of life they have never questioned, who’s values they have never tested, and who’s benefits either come at high costs to health or family or both.

When I think of obedience, what comes to mind is the will.  That part of ourselves that guides how we make directions and choices, how it weighs between what we want, what we need, and what we don’t want.  Many of us, including myself, have asked how obedience plays a part in my life in terms of taking direction or following instruction.  But there’s a deeper, more significant aspect to obedience that I think is important to examine.

Obedience, especially from the point of view of someone in religious life, is a vow one takes that links their life and choices to the immediate will of God, even and especially when that will isn’t clearly understood, or the direction may seem frightening or challenging.  It’s described in fluffy speak in phrases like “When God closes a door, They open a window.”  And when you hear these sayings, you don’t necessarily consider what that fully means.

As a Franciscan, I’ve had to make some very challenging choices, choices which at one end seem to take me away from what has been safe.  And I don’t feel safe 100% of the time having made those choices.  Many times, people in my life rail up against me for making those choices because they don’t understand, or those choices I make somehow directly challenge their own ideals and values.  Poverty, Chastity, and Obedience were the three vows I took two years ago in Toronto.  To a great extent, these three vows run contrary to what we in Western society hold as worthy, especially as worth in men who are supposed to be providers, protectors, and rescuers.

As a person, a human being, I often resist what the manifestation of obedience looks like because it hurts, it’s painful, it forces me to face fears and confront anxieties that I’d rather not deal with.  I won’t lie!  I’ve often run from facing those fears, only to have to come up against them again later and make the choice again to either face it head on, or run from it and pretend that it’s not real, or that it’s not effecting me.

I am almost fifty years old.  I’ve spent a great deal of my life struggling to learn who I am.  I can say with some certainty that the choices I’ve made in the last two years have been in obedience to the truth of who I am as a person, where I want to be as a person, and the kind of person that I want to continue evolving into.  The virtue of Obedience in it’s purest sense is to know my truth, to live that truth, even in the face and challenge of those who see no value in that truth, or who’s own lives are challenged by the presence of that truth.  It means listening for the quiet voice of God in every moment, in every situation, and hearing what God is saying–taking the time to truly discern what God is saying rather than making assumptions based upon needs and desires.

 

“The followers of most holy Poverty, having nothing, loved nothing, and therefore had no fear of losing anything.  They were content with a tunic only, patched sometimes within and without; no elegance was seen in it, but great abjectness and vileness, to the end they might wholly appear therein as crucified to the world.  They were girt with a cord, and wore drawers of common stuff, and they were piously intent upon remaining in that state, and to have nothing more.  Everywhere, therefore, they were secure, nor kept in suspense by any fear, distracted by no care, they awaited the morrow without solicitude, nor, though oftentimes in great straits in their journeys, were they ever in anxiety about a night’s lodging.  For when, as often happened, they lacked a lodging in the coldest weather, an oven sheltered them, or, at least, they lay hid by night humbly in underground places or in caves.  And by day those who knew how to, worked with their hands, and they stayed in lepers’ houses, or in other decent places, serving all with humility and devotion.

                                              –The Life of Saint Francis, Thomas of Celano, Chapter XV

 

 

Sometimes, the virtues cross into areas that make some people feel uncomfortable.  One of the things that I’ve encountered from a lot of my Protestant friends is the idea that Marian devotion isn’t something that’s scripturally sanctioned, and so, it’s a kind of heresy.

I get it.  I was walking my dog today and thinking about it, and yes!  I understand why a lot of people who aren’t Catholics find Marian devotion sort of odd, lumped in with a lot of other things that some people find odd about Catholicism.

BUT!

Rather than get into why we practice these devotions, I want to take the time in the blog post this week to explain what I’ve gotten out of these devotions, what these practices do to help strengthen my faith, and why I want to continue to do them.  More importantly, why Marian devotion is even more important for those of us who are members of the gender and sexually diverse community.

Our Lady of Guadalupe, although not officially sanctioned, is the manifestation of Our Lady whom I believe to be the most empathic to our community, and here’s why.  As an advocate, She appeared in a way that millions of people could relate to culturally in ways that people who were not members of the culture couldn’t see.  For one, the image was produced in a way that was culturally interpreted as a codex:  namely, the entire image is presented so that images on the cloak, positions of Our Lady’s feet in dancing posture, even the reflections in the eyes which under examination show reflections as in a room, as in how human eyes would appear if photographed, all are presented in such a way that individuals and elders familiar with reading indigenous texts.

A manifestation of the divine presented itself in a way that, up until then, had always manifested itself in a western style.

In other words:  Divinity presented through the lens of diversity.

The rosary is something that I try and pray every day; the focus of verbal prayer combined with the movement of beads through my hand, the focus of the mind on images from the life of Christ, and intentions of the people I’m praying for.  During the day, I recite the “Ave Maria” repeatedly in my mind over and over.  When I was in the midst of the hardest depression, I would reach out in prayer to try and find solace.  As I grew stronger and overcame a lot of my depression, I’ve found that from time to time my brain tries to get back into that imbalanced way of thinking.  The Ave Maria has been a strong way of focusing my mind away from those kinds of thoughts that bring me into depression and anxiety.  It doesn’t always stop the depression or the anxious feelings, but it does help to keep my head above water.

But more importantly, from a Franciscan perspective, Marian devotion helps us to connect with a kind of love that, on earth, I believe is the closest love to Divine Love;  namely, the love of a mother for her children.

As Queer people, we have often encountered that love through a lens that is human, limited, a lens that encourages rigidness and conformity.  Rather than recognize the beauty, the gift of diversity that is present in each of us, many through fear have attempted to force conformity, rigidity.  Our society has forced this kind of conformity in ways that have supressed and injured people and cultures in ways that we can’t begin to fathom.

The love of the Blessed Mother is a model for us to work towards–the love that looks past the dirt, the muck, the poop and pee, the tears, the anger, the temper tantrums, and just loves us for who we are, for what we are, regardless of how others might see us.  Its a call to emulate that love, as hard as that is, viewing each person as someone who at once could be a mother, or a child.

The Marian Devotion, the true devotion, is practicing the teaching of Love in all our lives, even when we are angry, even when we are frustrated, even and especially when we are confronted by truths that may seem hurtful, may seem directed towards us, but may also be challenges to see individuals in ways that deepen not only our love for others, but for self, for Mary, for Jesus, and for God.

Hail Holy Queen, mother of mercy,

Hail our life, our sweetness, and our hope.

To thee do we cry, poor banished children of Eve;

To thee do we lift up our sighs, mournful and sorrowful in this valley of tears.

Turn then, most gracious advocate, thine eyes of mercy towards us.

And after this, our exile, show unto us the blessed fruit of thy womb,

Jesus.

O clement, o loving, o sweet virgin Mary:

Pray for us, oh holy mother of God, that we may become

worthy of the promises of Christ.

 

 

It happens more frequently than I’d like to admit that the virtue of the week somehow has incredible relevance to where I’m at.  This week is just an underline of that reality.

“Franciscan Virtues Throughout the Year” labels it “Loyalty to the Church”, but I wanted to expand this to  be loyalty in general, to talk abut what loyalty means to me, how I’ve experienced loyalty and being loyal in the past, and how my concept of loyalty may have changed as I’ve aged.

In my family of origin, loyalty was best described as maintaining the status-quo, keeping the secret, behaving in ways that I was taught were purposed to keep a secret outside of the four walls of the house.  But what I found later in life was that these were more about keeping the secret isolated within those four walls.  Loyalty began in my life as a compromise to my authentic identity as a person because to say or do anything contrary threatened the identity of another person who had greater power and control.  I suspect this is pretty common in families that have instances of addiction or abuse.  But I wonder just how much this kind of loyalty exists outside of dysfunctionality of addiction.  Has our society created loyalty without reason, or without sense?

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In my past relationships, loyalty was driven by the fear of loss, the fear of judgment.  It was more an instrument of confinement than a sense, a reason to exist in a kind of symbiosis where each party benefited.  The hardest challenge I face now is to recognize when that fear is motivating the loyalty, motivating the reactions to the challenges that occur.  So when something happens that pushes me towards a direction of possible loss, and I might be inclined to react (or do react) out of a sense of trying to prevent that loss, I’m acting in a state of loyalty to the dark part of myself, the frightened child.

That’s scary because the potential for loss exists, and every time I walk out on that plank, I’m putting myself at risk of being rejected at the cost of being loyal to my values, my principles, the essence of who I am as a person.  In this sense, loyalty to self (which is different from narcissistic selfishness), combined with a constant and consistent evaluation of self, of behavior, of where those behaviors being and why they play out the way they do supersedes any other choice of loyalty because without that loyalty to the authentic self, any other choice to ally will be false, empty, selfish, and destructive to everyone associated with the choice of where loyalty is invested.

Loyalty is linked with faith, with trust.  Faith and trust cannot exist without love of self, loyalty to self.

Sometimes that means saying “no” even, and especially, in the face/fear of potential loss.

“In order to understand the virtue of Love of Self, we must first understand that without God we are nothing!”                                                                                                                                                                                             -Franciscan Virtues Throughout the Year, p.83

As challenging as it is, sometimes I have to look carefully and in (an attempt to be) detached view of who I am and what it is that I’m doing.

Sometimes it means recognizing that the behaviors we engage in to protect ourselves end up pushing the people we love further away from us, or keep us from being authentic.  In many ways, these are literally first world problems because other people are fighting desperately to just keep a roof over their heads.

Case in point is our mission in Cameroon.  Right now, the mission is recovering from a very bizarre twist of having the church, orphanage, and living quarters demolished to make way for a public road.  Now, Msgr. Joseph is literally scrambling to try and keep a roof over his head.

I’m hurt because while I’d like to be able to help financially, if I put out any more than what I currently am, my own home and family will suffer.  I can do prayerful things like ask that more Masses be read on Cameroon’s behalf, I can fast on behalf of the mission, but at some point love of self requires that preservation come over charity.

I struggle with this as a Franciscan.  The Franciscan philosophy is to give all until the point of nothing left to give that we might be able to better engage Christ in others, and in ourselves.  But even Francis had to allow himself some comforts, even if that comfort was a stone floor to sleep on, a cave to pray in, or a tunic to cover his body.

Love of self, in terms of vocation, comes down to realizing that limiting our exposure to comfort can to a degree bring us closer to understanding and knowing God, but excessiveness can bring about a kind of pride that is dangerous.

Self Love is being able to act from the place in our hearts that is closest to God, closest to the danger places that we fear.  It is being able to ask those questions that we are most afraid of asking, holding onto the ideas of the answers being painful, even heart breaking, but asking the questions none-the-less because not asking, not entering into those places, is to resist knowing the will of God.  Love of self must be grounded in faith, in God, because love of self that rests anywhere else is selfishness that ends in darkness.

 

Yhwh.

The Hebrew name.
Breath in through the mouth, quietly, and listen.
Breathe out through the mouth, quietly, and listen.

From your first breath until your last, God is there.

How do I begin to explain what is so vast, so beyond my comprehension, and small enough to fit into my mind?

How do I begin to describe that which is reflected in the faces of the people I love most dearly, the people I’m closest to?

How can I try to begin to help you understand what brought me to wearing the browns?

Where do I begin to explain how this love, this infinite and powerful expression, has worked in my heart, in my mind, changed my eyes to see the world and the beauty and the suffering and the binary and the diversity?

Anger has no place anymore, and yet it works to push into the cracks and make the spaces wider.

Fear has no place anymore, and yet it works to unbind the mortar.

I go into that still place, the place where I trip over Latin words thousands of years in the making, signs of the cross that bring stillness deeper to my heart, brings the gaps closer together.  Beads in my pocket, copper and heavy, ringing with each step, reminding me of that stillness.

Quiet, the process of a Cistercian, an Englishman, into the cloud.  The unknowning.  The knowing and the dispersing of self, the emptying of fear and anger and all that is just as it should be with dollars and coins and bills and telephones

and

the filling of light

the smell of incense

the sound of chant in my throat

the hardness of stone on my knees

the taste of wheat and wine in my mouth

How do I begin to explain these movements, these words, these signs, these outward symbols  that seem so royal, so capital-driven, are markers to the outside that cannot see, the voice inside which cries out:

Agnus Dei, Agnus Dei, Agnus Dei, qui tollis peccata mundi, dona nobis pacem.

Breath in.

Breath out.

 

 

As a gardener, I was confronted a couple of years ago by the reality that the space I was using to grow vegetables was not going to perform as well as I had hoped, primarily because there are three large spruce trees at the back of the yard that start shading the entire yard about mid afternoon.  I did get some vegetables, but it didn’t produce well.  I started to transition the garden space into a perennial garden.

As much as it drives my neighbours crazy, I’ve let the yellow sweet clover take over.  There’s also other native plants including sages, daisies, and a couple of Russian thistles that are about to bloom (and yes, once the blooms are finished, I’m deadheading because nobody wants a yard full of thistles), and wild grasses that sway with the wind.  I’ve also seeded ancient grains that don’t seem to be coming up yet?  But the mustard is still blooming, and the day lilies and other perennials seem to be thriving in the space I’ve called the meadow.

I’ve also let the other flower beds and the raised vegetable garden to go a little more on the wild side, and yes it means that the vegetables don’t produce as prolific as they would’ve in a well weeded garden–but the over all effect is a wild, woodland, green space filled with all kinds of insects and birds.

These plants are providing a sweet aroma to my space, they move with the winds and the heat increases the scents.  I need to mow today just because the paths that I walk are starting to get a bit overgrown, and strangely enough the lawn parts of the back yard are drying out while the more naturalized parts of the yard seem to be thriving…although the next few days of heat wave will test that.

Before I went into my garden, I went into a thread on social media I was asked to reach out to and look into.  Apparently, the GSD housing that’s just been announced at the University of Regina has caused a lot of ruckus in the comments section, and a friend of mine had reached out to many of us to try and go in and bring the energy of the comments up to a little more positive space.

They weren’t kidding.  Ten seconds of just looking at the comments and I realized that the threads were literally filled with people who were trolling, people who were pushing a hegemonic agenda.

I closed the window.  What to do?  Do I confront it, do I just not get involved in it?  I realized from having taken part in a similar exercise last week that posting in a positive way, especially among a swarm of negative comments, often results in attacks and a huge energy drain.  My one interaction last week was exhausting!

In gardening, I have realized that sometimes making concessions results in beautiful results.  In the case of the meadow, I simply allowed plants which would’ve been categorized as weeds by most any other gardener to flourish.  The result is a space that, although unconventional, is pleasing and calming.  It’s the contemplative “cottage” garden that I was aiming to create and it required far less work to achieve, and far less maintenance to keep looking good.  Granted, most of my neighbours have commented on how I’ve let the weeds go.  But their perception is based on a convention of what is and what is not a weed.

During Pride, I held a retreat slash workshop called “Crossing the Road” in which I tried to get participants to see that the labels we use, the approaches we take to those labels, are designed to keep barriers between us because those barriers achieve a certain purpose.  It’s safer to keep an us versus them mentality.  Saint Francis took a plunge, tried to break through barriers because he knew they were a hindrance to living to the fullest.  Does this mean shaking off responsibility, does this mean not holding ourselves accountable for our actions?  Absolutely not.  What it does do is challenge us to question why it is we believe what we do about people, what those beliefs do to protect us, what ideas come about because of those beliefs that may or may not reflect truth about entire groups of people.  Not challenging the barriers between us as people helps to affirm that prejudices founded in fear are acceptable.  They’re necessary.

What no one seems to be willing to see is that on both sides of this, people are saying and doing the same things; only the names/identities of the individuals change.  The mechanism behind prejudice is exactly the same, and no one is the wiser to how ridiculous the entire situation is.

On the same token, I realized that some people aren’t interested in understanding a different point of view.  Some are simply excited, titillated, by trolling–poking the bear for poking the bear’s sake.  They’re best ignored because their entire purpose is not to challenge any idea, it’s simply to stir up a reaction for the sake of stirring up a reaction.  It’s childish, but more importantly, it’s a signal that someone requires understanding and compassion.  Which is difficult to do, because let’s face it!  These threads can create a massive amount of energy that most of us simply react to.

The challenge for us as Gender and Sexually Diverse people is to recognize that from our suffering, a suffering that many people either refuse to see or are unable to see, we are given a gift of empathy that is not only a privilege, but requires a certain level of responsibility.  We are challenged to be empathic to people who don’t see a struggle where we feel the struggle daily.

Not seeing something which is asserted to exist as a challenge to some is not proof that challenge does not exist.  Something that is not experienced as a challenge by one does not mean that challenge does not exist for others.  It requires patience, it requires that we treat every individual we meet with the dignity and respect we would ourselves expect, even and especially if that individual seems undeserving of that dignity and respect.  To do otherwise is to affirm that our differences keep us at opposite ends of a continuum that can never be crossed, or challenged.

Rather than enemy, Love of Neighbour.

The quote from the book today rings so solidly, and so true:

“All my brothers, let us pay attention to what the Lord says; love your enemies and do good to those who hate you for our Lord Jesus Christ, Whos footprints we must follow, called His betrayer a friend and willingly handed Himself to His executioners.

“Our friends, therefore, are all those who unjustly inflict upon us distress and anguish, shame and injury, sorrow and punishment, martyrdom and death.  We must love them greatly for we shall possess eternal life because of what they bring us.”

                                                                      -Earlier Rule, Chapter XXII

 

This week’s virtue is timely given that in just a couple of days, the individuals who have been camped out at Wascana Park will be meeting with representatives of the Provincial Government.  For those of you who may not know, they individuals began camping here after the Gerald Stanley trial came back with a verdict of “not guilty”. This is a complex issue that would take pages to really explain, so I urge you begin your reading here.  I also urge you to continue to search and read articles on the case, the verdict, and the implications. On July 1, they will be holding a consultation to allow the community to provide them with issues to take to the table–while on the other hand, the government has asked at least three times for the police to remove the camp.

The police have refused.

 

I was approached on Facebook by someone who wanted to have a discussion about Gender and Sexually Diverse Rights and the struggle.  I was so wrapped up in the camp that I didn’t realize this was his initial reason for starting the conversation with me.  My bad.

This individual claimed to be in Christian ministry, and I can only assume that if they were, given the tone of their demeanor they were a member of a fundamentalist denomination.  Not judging, just making an assumption.  In his words,  “Justice is consequence for action.”

While I may agree that this definition might be a part of what justice is, I can’t help but think that justice itself is far more reaching than just consequences for action.

His argument was that the law says that you can’t camp in the park.  And while it may be uncomfortable, everyone has to follow the law.

But what is law, what is justice, if those consequences aren’t balanced with compassion?

The general energy of the comments I’ve been witnessing have been that we all have to be treated equally, and that means everyone has to act according to the law regardless of why and what they are doing.  But where do we acquire this idea of equality?  What is the bench mark for equality?   Equal from an Anglo-Saxon perspective?  For someone who may have grown up in adverse poverty, addiction, violence, depression, this isn’t equal.  This is a bar that is so high that they have to reach twice as far as someone who hasn’t experienced these issues.

Is justice fair if it’s based on a sense of equality that requires individuals to reach twice as far from where they have begun to be considered on the same level playing field as those of us who haven’t had to experience these issues?

The individual I mentioned earlier in this post said also that they abhorred using labels.  And while I find that this sentiment may be rooted in the right ideas, again I have to say:  if we remove labels, and identities, what is the general identity we’re attempting to achieve, and what happens when that identity (and I’m going to assume that general identity is one that comes from the safety of privilege) again requires individuals to work twice as hard for what I have?

I had to work 70 hour weeks at one point in my working career.  Not just for one week, but for a few years.  I understand what it means when people postulate “hard work to get ahead”.  What I have now is because of that, and in the scheme of things it’s not a lot.  When I consider how much more difficult that would’ve been had I not been a white male….  And that bothers a lot of us.  And that makes a lot of us white males feel marginalized, and isolated, and discriminated against.

The key to justice with compassion begins right there.  It begins with recognizing that feeling of being discriminated against is something we can use empathetically.  We need to multiply that feeling ten fold to get just a taste of what it’s like to be someone who lives with discrimination and marginalization and the yoke of “if you work hard enough you can achieve anything (you just have to work five times as hard)” feels on a daily basis.  It’s from that position that we have to use that feeling of being discriminated against not to be victims, but to help empower all people, to lower the line not because we need to give people hand outs and something for nothing, but because the comfort of where we exist comes at the price of other people being held in their suffering.

If the money that was used to purchase a pipeline recently had instead been used to renew or replace infrastructure and create healthy, clean drinking water on First Nations across the country, how much further would we be in terms of truth and reconciliation?

I know this makes a lot of people angry, and I understand where that anger comes from.  It’s from the place where I suspect most of us realize that when we hear someone say “welfare is a free hand out for someone who doesn’t want to work for a living, it’s a leech on our tax dollars”, our anger helps to cover the reality that most of the people who are on welfare have a bellow average if not sub-standard quality of life, a quality of life which our society not only has a hand in creating, but sustaining.

I’ve challenged the people I’ve heard speaking out against the camp to actually go down and listen to what the people there have to say.  Most of them hide behind the law argument.

As I’ve come to learn and to understand:  privilege requires no courage.

When justice under the law is based on an principle of equality that is measured by an impossible standard to achieve by all people, there is justice for no one.

“Let whoever has received the power of judging others pass judgment with mercy, as they should wish to receive mercy from the Lord.  For judgment will be without mercy for those who have not shown mercy.”                                                                                                                      -St. Francis of Assisi, “Second Version of the Letter to the Faithful”

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It can be as simple as six unopened peonies in a group planting that should have yielded thirty or forty.  Winters are strange.  Peonies are joy.

It can be as wonderful as the first nose of lilac, and the first nose of deep purple lilac that is so much headier than the light blue ones in the back.

It is as amazing and overcoming as realizing he left the car open, windows down, no keys, but it’s ok because he’s on his way back…and three blocks down thirteenth avenue towards Albert Street from where it started, the back of the parade is slowly moving west while the front of the parade is just starting to pass behind you going south on Broad Street.

Or the smile on the face of a woman reunited with her child.

Or the still quiet golden light that fills the clover in the back yard, and the sound of bees of all shapes and sizes feasting.

It is the exhilaration of a tipi returning to where it once was, and the prospect of a beer garden being less important than the voices of our First Nations siblings, and the lives of all of our children.

It’s diner with friends, and the realization that in forgetting to pay, the realization of how exhausted you really are, a friend has your back and it’s not an issue.

Or being in the right place at the right time to find the ring of one of your biggest heroes.  Thank you Bunny.  I know you stepped on it?  But I was able to fix it.  It’s yours if you want it back, but for now, that rock is mine.

It’s the feeling of knowing your dog won’t be around as long as you’d hoped, but every day that she wakes you up with a smile and asking for a walk means it’s one more day with your fur baby.

It’s knowing that you are part of a community, part of a group of people who care about your welfare, who think about you often.

It’s the feeling I get when I dig into the soil the first time, every time.  It’s the feeling I get when I put on my habit, when I sit down with my breviary, when I light a candle before I go to bed.

The flavor of the first tomato, and watermelon, and Japanese mayonnaise.

A gentle touch while driving, a hand that just embraces a finger, for no reason.

 

 

This has quite possibly been one of the most challenging couple of weeks in the Gender and Sexually Diverse community of Regina’s history.

For those of you that may not know, our local pride committee selected two grand marshals this year.  One was Aids Programs South Saskatchewan, the other was a football player from an NFL team who’s originally from Regina.  This football player was selected as having showed qualities consistent with what some might consider an ally to the GSD community.

Then tempers flared.

On one hand members of the community were happy that an ally with a big name and possible draw quality was selected.  On the other hand, members of our community were frustrated and angered by the idea of walking behind a cis-gender heterosexual person.   Last Wednesday, there was a town hall meeting where some members of the community gathered to voice their frustrations, pain, and opinions.

Where a lot of us felt like there was going to be shouting and yelling, what ended up happening was just about everyone was able to voice their opinions, express how they felt, and to do so in a way that was constructive, safe, and community-building.  A lot of things were said in the meeting that brought together diverse communities that exist within the greater community, something that has needed to happen for a long time.

A statement was released to the press (who were in fact hovering outside the meeting looking for a story, and when one wasn’t provided to them in the time frame they required, created one in the style of what I would consider tabloid journalism), the community once again reacted.  This time, words and phrases were bantered about that were not only divisive, but contained the kind of sting and anger that we as GDS people would only expect from the extreme right or fundamentalist Christendom.

The virtue this week is imitation of Jesus.  A lot of us within the GSD community have experience pain, trauma, and rejection from religious organisations through the years, so the idea of imitating the figure head of the organisation behind that suffering seems contrarian, seems indignant, seems frustrating at it’s best.  I’m not writing this blog post for those people.

This post is for the people who do walk that knife edge of being both queer and Christian, or in my case, queer and Catholic.  Part of the challenge we have to live is that we potentially face rejection and scorn from both our GDS community and our religious and/or spiritual community.  As much as this pushes many of us to practice in secret, or in ways that may compromise the strength of our faith, we are in fact called to preach the gospel at every opportunity–and to use words when necessary.  Rather than announce our faith verbally, the community has to come to know who we are by what we do, why we do it being secondary.

And that means emulating Our Lord when He said, “Forgive them, Father.  They know not what they do.”

It means forgiving people whom we would instead rather lash out at, lash out at with the support of community, for beliefs and actions that are contrary to the innate right to existence we as GSD people have (that in fact every human being is entitled to).  It means forgiveness of the most vicious, the most hurtful, the most painful–especially and even when these  comments come from people we considered to be allies or friends.

I have been made aware of shameful behaviour that has occurred in our community, committed by members of our own community towards other members.  There are groups who at this moment are watching, waiting for the opportunity to strike at our rights, waiting for the moments when we are most divided, and most in conflict with each other.  As my partner so prolifically quoted, “A house divided against itself will fall.”

If in the next few weeks we suffer setbacks at the hands of other individuals or organizations, we have no one to blame but ourselves:  not the press, not the right, not the fundamentalist.  Ourselves.  Our community has shown great promise and potential, but in the same light, has said things that cut to the core of who we are, what we are supposed to be, in ways that I can only conceive to be described as fascist.

When individuals behave in this kind of way to their own community, they turn their backs on where they came from. In effect, they turn their back on the people who had to work and to sacrifice so much for their rights.

To people who use words like terrorist to describe people with differing opinions in the GSD community of Regina, to people who confine people to what they can and cannot do within the GSD  community because of the limited opinions of their limited binary thinking:

You have turned your back on your roots, on your heritage, in exchange for the comfort of the illusion of righteous superiority.

When people in our own community revert to treating people of our community as second class citizens, they allow and give permission for the GSD community to once again fall into a condition of not being taken seriously, and for those of the extreme opinions to act against us confidently.

Wake up.  Wake up.  Wake up.

Pray.  Love.  Learn.  Be ok with being uncomfortable, be ok with recognizing anger and frustration at an opinion or an action as possibly being a trigger to recognize your own privilege.  It happens to me all the time, and it bothers me, and I’m grateful for it.

We must be like Jesus, but we have to be like Saint Francis of Assisi as well, and literally challenge ourselves to see our own faces in every human being that we encounter.  Especially the people we are most afraid to see our own reflections in.  Be that a football player, a reporter, a protester, someone struggling to find their identity, or someone who’s confidence in their identity possibly shakes our confidence in our own.